Today’s orgy has, alas, been called off due to scheduling conflicts.
My problem is that, since I was the only one with no scheduling conflicts, the hosts have invited me to have a 3-way with them, and I do not wish to do so.
I have no idea how to get out of this gracefully.
“I was fine using you to have a sordid experience such as fantasies and porn movies are made of, but when it comes to spending an afternoon in your company being friendly and affectionate, no thanks, you’re too old” seems a little de trop.
There’s also the unforgivable rudeness of reneging on an invitation already accepted.
And yet having group sex simply to be polite seems somehow a little excessive.
There’s nothing wrong with calling and saying “Hey, thanks for the invitation, but I’m not going to be able to make it after all.” It’s non-specific and does not contain any lie that might come back to bite you in the ass in future. If these guys have good manners, they will then make polite noises of disappointment followed by a vague notion of rescheduling the three-way another time. And then life will move on for all.